Call me maybe: How we choose to contact women in the digital age
Can you imagine the kind of people there are on Facebook? She blocked us just like that, for nothing! Thankfully, women aren't usually so difficult, and you can normally establish a contact using all sorts of means, including phone, Facebook, Skype, etc., etc. But what does it mean when we choose to make the first step using a text? Is it a good idea to stalk a girl on Facebook, even if you decide to call her the "normal" way after that? Do our chances with girls/women improve if we pretend to be a little more old-fashioned than we really are?
Let's take a look at the most popular ways of contacting women these days and see how each one can help or prevent us from succeeding!
Method #1: Voice calling
Pros: Our smartphones allow us to do all kinds of communication nowadays, but probably the easiest way they can get us a date is by doing a good, old-fashioned voice call. Why is that, you ask? Well, if there's one thing we know about women, it's that they are probably the most geekless people on the planet. It's 2013 and women are still most impressed by men who care about... well, normal stuff, such as food, cars and football. Now that we think about it, it's hard to find anything wrong with that, but anyways, the point is that you'll hardly become a heart-breaker even if you spend a whole day friending random girls on Facebook. You want to be a man? Then pick up the phone and dial that number. Women will appreciate that.
Cons: Of course, dialing a number means that you've already managed to get that number, which might be a bit tricky in some cases. Another disadvantage of this method of establishing contact is that you need to act on the spot. You can't spend a few moments (or minutes) choosing your best answer, you need to think quickly. In case you aren't the most skillful talker, there are two things you can do: a) avoid ruining your chances with the woman of your life by trying to go for the texting route, or b) make a few practice phone calls with some friends first, and then, when you've warmed up, call her. PhoneArena strongly encourages you to face your fears and go with b).
Method #2: Text messaging
Pros: The good thing about text messaging is that neither of you will expect much from the other (if the other has chosen to contact them via text). What we mean is that you're not supposed to say much with a text, so even if communication with people isn't your biggest passion, that can easily be covered by the informality of the text message.
Cons: Unfortunately, things just can't be so easy, can they? One has to be extremely careful if they choose to approach that special someone via a simple text. Not only is it informal, it's also showing lack of serious interest. If you really want this to work, it'll be best to avoid the text message. Still, if that's the best option you have, make sure those 160 characters count. And be sure to type fluently.
Method #3: Email
Pros: We do realize that email is not the most popular way to contact women these days, but it's actually not a bad way to communicate with someone when you do not have any immediate intentions. Maybe you're still in a relationship (that has no future)... or, maybe your current girlfriend is spying on your phone or Facebook? If this is the case, then the least popular means of communication may also prove to be the safest ones. On top of that, email allows you to say much more than a simple text. Provided that you actually have something meaningful to say, it's probably best to compose a nice and well-punctuated email. Adding a picture of a cuddly animal can help immensely.
Cons: If the girl or woman that you're trying to seduce (look at us, seducing women with email, how pathetic is that?) turns out to be living in the digital age, you may actually make yourself look pretty weird by sending her that email. Using email to contact friends and women that are relatively close to you (and why would you want to contact women that are far away?) is so last... decade. It'll be better to to pick any of the other methods outlined in this article, except for the text message, maybe.
Method #4: Facebook
Pros: If you compare it to texting and email, Facebook is actually not that bad an option. It's relatively easy to find anyone on Facebook, and it gives you a lot variety in terms of how you'd like to establish contact. First of all, you can friend her. Then, you can start liking her images, you can comment on them, and, guess what, you can even send her a PM kind of message, if she's away, or an instant message. All of these things create a slightly different context that may prove useful in achieving your ultimate goal - getting a date.
Cons: As popular as it is, Facebook's starting to wear out its potential as a date-making service, you know what we mean? At first, it was kind of cool to friend girls on Facebook and then ask them on a date, but nowadays there aren't too many women left that would gladly accept your offer this way. If you just feel that the Facebook way is the right way for you, though, note that it's essential that you first know the girl from somewhere else. This will increase your chances indefinitely.
Living in the digital age can be a blessing and a curse, depending on what you want to use your digital services for. Your life can benefit immensely from having access to the tons of information and seamless communication with people around the world. However, it probably isn't a very good idea to rely on technology too much when you want to start a new relationship. Using technology to keep in touch with people is one thing, but it shouldn't really be our first choice when we want to ask someone on a date. This is one of those occasions when our smartphones can do us a favor by acting as simple dumbphones, at least for a few minutes.
1. bvalde09 (Posts: 174; Member since: 22 Nov 2011)
..... Dating Methodgs Phonearena? how about if we stick to the phones and tech news
27. Stuntman (Posts: 828; Member since: 01 Aug 2011)
Articles like this do have their place on tech sites. I find it a nice break once in a while.
35. bvalde09 (Posts: 174; Member since: 22 Nov 2011)
Im not saying no, but I would rather see something like impact of the tech on the relationships than this. How about some couple no longer call but text? since when started? Do we have less contact with so many tech around us. That sounds better dont you think?
2. xperiaDROID (banned) (Posts: 5629; Member since: 08 Mar 2013)
Ray, you shouldn't tell her she's hot, you should tell her "Hey, I just met you and this is crazy but here's my number (your phone number), so call me, maybe."
13. WHoyton1 (Posts: 1635; Member since: 21 Feb 2013)
Do you just constantly refresh your page and when a new news comes out just quickly comment... Your first on almost everything! LOL
15. xperiaDROID (banned) (Posts: 5629; Member since: 08 Mar 2013)
Huh? I'm not the first one on this article. :)
19. quadrazeus (Posts: 359; Member since: 03 May 2013)
Guess this awfully cheesy guy has got nothing to do. Lmao!
25. xperiaDROID (banned) (Posts: 5629; Member since: 08 Mar 2013)
Guess this mean fishy guy has got nothing to do. Tsk!
20. quadrazeus (Posts: 359; Member since: 03 May 2013)
Please don't offer any advice, you're just a kid.
24. xperiaDROID (banned) (Posts: 5629; Member since: 08 Mar 2013)
I didn't offer any advice, it's just a joke, and I'm a teen not a kid. DUH!
32. quadrazeus (Posts: 359; Member since: 03 May 2013)
I'm sorry, I didn't want to sound mean. :/
Anyway, a 14 year old teen is a kid. xD
40. jcarrigan (unregistered)
dude your a douche. how about making fun of someone who can legally drink okay? or how about you go back on Facebook, creep around on there, and bully someone. otherwise shut it! the 14 yr old teenager is just having some fun on a fun website.
41. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
Xperia you're lucky as heck dude. When I was 14 all we had was a bike (if we were lucky), and Atari lol. My son's 16, and I can't believe all the crap he has. When I tell him no his mom spoils him and gets it for him. He has a droid razr, iPhone 4, iPad mini, x box 360 psp and a lap top, and that's just what I can think of, to his credit though he's an excellent kid and smart. Enjoy your teen years dude, they go by fast. Soon you'll be an adult with kids of your own.........and bills lol.
52. xperiaDROID (banned) (Posts: 5629; Member since: 08 Mar 2013)
I don't even want to think about that, everything needs money, bills...bills...bills..., (sigh) but we can't stop that right? We'll just let the time pass.......
57. Webkimz (Posts: 3; Member since: 08 May 2013)
I can feel you dude, when i was 14 i was dying to get a family game, remember it?
4. msa1988 (Posts: 418; Member since: 30 Mar 2010)
If you're serious about a date, be a man and make a phone call! Setting up dates and plans through texting is for high schoolers. Get your confidence up and make the call!
46. TROLL (banned) (Posts: 4851; Member since: 13 Apr 2012)
So where are all the girls gone!
Looks like there"s crisis finding a girl.
1 girl 10 guys chasing her.
1 guy 1 girl chasing him, wow™
50. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
LMAOOOOO 1 girl 10 guys is like a nightmare dude
7. the_s2 (Posts: 224; Member since: 22 Nov 2011)
LOL PA, come up with more articles like this! looks like the fairer sex doesnt visit tech sites much ;)
9. Nikolas.Oliver (banned) (Posts: 1574; Member since: 01 Jul 2012)
lol most of girls are using iPhone...
10. EXkurogane (Posts: 863; Member since: 07 Mar 2013)
Since when Phonearena became Datingarena?
31. EclipseGSX (Posts: 1703; Member since: 18 Oct 2011)
90% of visitors on Phonearena are single guys
47. TROLL (banned) (Posts: 4851; Member since: 13 Apr 2012)
Married and my wife has an iP4s, wtf, she likes it, but I still call take the piss of her iS???p, she goes mad™
51. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
C'mon Troll you know you married her for her iPhone lol
11. shuaibhere (Posts: 1927; Member since: 07 Jul 2012)
Any girls here???
What you girls think about this article???
12. imgod (Posts: 13; Member since: 12 Feb 2012)
No matter what religion you are following(WP, Android, iOS, etc), this article gets us all together.
14. WHoyton1 (Posts: 1635; Member since: 21 Feb 2013)
And the award for the weirdest comment goes to....
26. imgod (Posts: 13; Member since: 12 Feb 2012)
Seems like you have a lot of awards bearing that title under your possession.
17. XPERIA-KNIGHT (unregistered)
great article ray, funny as hell, but also real good advice :)
also in the first paragraph, second to last sentence, theres a huge typo lol you said you told her "HE'S" hot! lmaoooo
55. Owlet (Posts: 447; Member since: 21 Feb 2011)
I see he fixed that one.
Still need to change "things" in "there are two think you can do" in Cons of Voice calling.
56. Ray.S (Posts: 273; Member since: 19 Jul 2011)
Lol, I'm on a roll with the typos these days. Sorry guys!
18. nerdylish (Posts: 51; Member since: 13 Apr 2013)
Ray, I just love your articles.
Thumbs up for you!
21. Meleagru (Posts: 90; Member since: 03 Dec 2012)
From my own experience, women want you to call them. At least, they want me to call them. Something is lost when you text and it can hurt communication. That goes for email and Facebook, too.
22. 1ceTr0n (Posts: 545; Member since: 20 May 2012)
Simple, she's usually in the kitchen, ask her there.
23. imkyle (Posts: 1051; Member since: 18 Nov 2010)
This is what you say...
I think its good to get to know someone emotionally before physically. Although physically is what we are working towards.
28. Stuntman (Posts: 828; Member since: 01 Aug 2011)
What about dating/relationship sites like eHarmony. A few people I know have met their significant others on sites like this.
44. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
Would you rather go thru a site, or meet her by chance...like it was fate?
59. Stuntman (Posts: 828; Member since: 01 Aug 2011)
What difference does it make how you first meet or get in contact with each other?
33. Droiddoes (unregistered)
Method #5: Sending random c*ck shots and hoping to get a bite
39. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
Yeah you would do some pervert crap like that...wouldn't you.
36. _PHug_ (Posts: 421; Member since: 11 Oct 2011)
Speak for yourself.
I don't use Facebook or Twitter, I just spit game.
I get more than my share and nowadays it's so much easier because the competition (you) is busy stalking on Facebook and Twitter.
Try talking to a girl/woman face to face, you'll come off as exotic just because it's so rare now.
38. darkkjedii (Posts: 15550; Member since: 05 Feb 2011)
+1 dude. I'm engaged to the last chick I spit game at. I'm off the singles list now, but the old fashion way works best. Chicks dig a confident manly man.