When should you resist the temptation of looking at your phone

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When should you resist the temptation of looking at your phone
We've all gotten so accustomed to our smartphones, that checking if we have any new notifications or just quickly scrolling through our favorite app has become an instinct. While most people have a good sense of when it's ОК to do that and when no to, throughout the day we all see people who don't follow the "common" sense. Hoping to reduce the cases of unwarranted phone checking, we compiled a short list of situations, in which to avoid it.

While on a date

You're at a coffee shop with a nice person and they're telling you a not so fascinating story from their life, so you're thinking "I can totally listen AND check what's going on with #paintdrying!". Even if you can, just don't! It doesn't matter how you feel about the person, if you've decided to be there, you should show some basic respect. If there is something so important that it can't wait, it's better to go to the bathroom and check there. Just don't do it every five minutes.

This rule applies to pretty much all 1-on-1 interactions, but we can sort of give it a pass when it comes to friends you go out with regularly.

While at the movies

Turning off the sound of your device during a movie is a given, and luckily pretty much everyone does it. However, some people still feel like it's ok to use their phones. It's not. Even if you hold it close to you, to not disturb the person right behind you, your screen can still be seen from people sitting on either side. It's very distracting to have a bright dot somewhere in your peripheral vision while trying to focus on the movie. Do what you have to do during the trailers and then forget about your phone for 2 hours. That's what movies are for anyway. 

While in a meeting

Unless your job depends on what's happening on your screen, you should avoid checking your phone during a meeting. Nothing says "I don't want to be here" more than constantly glancing at your phone. Chances are, everyone else doesn't want to be there too (unless it's a "Which of these new chips flavors should we release?" meeting). Would you open a book and start reading in the middle of a meeting? No. So don't use your phone either.

While at a funeral

This shouldn't even have to be mentioned, but we're going to anyway, because there's always that one person. Don't be that person. Even if you just buried your hated grandma that left you out of her will, keep your disrespect for later.

While at a sports game (baseball excluded)

This one is not so important, considering you can't really influence other people's experience with your phone, but we feel like it should be mentioned for your own good. You pay $60+ to go to a major sporting event, which usually lasts around 3 hours, and you can't help but whip out your phone every two minutes, or just hold it constantly, why? Okay, taking pictures is fine, sure. Some will say they only do it during downtime, so they don't really miss anything, but are you really that content deprived, while surrounded by thousands of people, that you must resort to your phone? Yeah, we thought so.

While at your wife's ultrasound appointment

The doctor is moving the ultrasound probe (that's right, I googled how it's called) over your wife's round belly, while she's staring at the monitor trying to make sense of the black and white images. The perfect time to check some memes, you might think! Wrong! Just as you open reddit, your wife looks at you to share the magical moment of seeing your child for the first time. And you've ruined it...

While your husband is sharing his latest accomplishment

After weeks of work and a case of beer, your husband is finally ready to reveal the Batman inspired bird house he built. While he's explaining how the feeder is squirrel-proof, you crave for some pictures of coffee mugs next to books, so you go for it! You look up just seconds later to see the disappointment in his eyes. He's probably not going to paint that fence anytime soon.

Now some people are thinking "Who are you to tell me how to use my phone, I'll do whatever I want with it!" And you know what, that's exactly the attitude that leads to the behavior mentioned above. What shows up on the internet, stays on the internet, it will still be there when you get to it later.



1. bucky

Posts: 3794; Member since: Sep 30, 2009

Family dinner. Whether it be my wife and I or with the kids too, no phones at our table.

2. RebelwithoutaClue unregistered

And one of the most important ones, during driving

5. thedizzle

Posts: 201; Member since: Oct 05, 2017


9. andynaija

Posts: 1264; Member since: Sep 08, 2012


10. lyndon420

Posts: 6865; Member since: Jul 11, 2012

The other thing.

3. lyndon420

Posts: 6865; Member since: Jul 11, 2012

Funny how common sense goes out the window, and we need to be reminded that a real world exists if we'd just look up instead of down at our phones lol.

6. p51d007

Posts: 705; Member since: Nov 24, 2013

Sad how grammar, courtesy, common sense all pretty much left the world, with the advent of the SMART phone. Personally, I think grooming, manners, respect and what not, all went out the door decades ago, with the decay of the so called nuclear family. Breaking up a typical family of mom, dad, couple kids and dog/cat, single parents, baby momma/daddy crap leads to this.

7. cmdacos

Posts: 4307; Member since: Nov 01, 2016

During sex Unless you're solo like Piyath, then you need your phone.

8. Godlymansean

Posts: 339; Member since: Apr 14, 2017


12. libra89

Posts: 2312; Member since: Apr 15, 2016

I agree with this, but not with it being ok during baseball. I disagree with that! The only time I have my phone out there is when I'm taking pictures there.

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