Surveys

Survey reveals why today's daters like to use text messages

posted by Alan F. / Jul 18, 2013, 10:40 PM

Survey reveals why today's daters like to use text messages

Mobile technology has changed many things we do, so why wouldn't it change the dating world? USA Today took a survey of 1500 daters aged 21 to 50 to see how devices like smartphones have changed dating. About a third of both men (31%) and women (33%) find that it is less intimidating to ask for a date via a text message as opposed to asking someone out in person.

Let's say you are sending a text to someone you're dating or want to date. How long should you expect to wait for a response? 25% say a response in that situation should not take longer than one hour. 10% expect an instant response or a reply within minutes. Are men more self conscious than woman? More men (44%) than women (37%) say that mobile devices make it easier to flirt and get to know someone. On the other hand, the study also showed that women prefer texting more then men because 'talking takes too long'.

Clinical psychologist Beverly Palmer, who is also a professor at California State University-Dominguez Hills, says the lack of intimacy involved in texting makes it easier to end relationships. She says, "In texting, a man can pull back quickly if he gets rejected, and it's easier to say 'no' to the guy because you're not having to confront the guy."

"People are uncomfortable using the phone. A text message is easier. You can think exactly what you want to say and how to craft it. When they are face-to-face or over the phone, there's this awkwardness."-Ruthie Dean, co-author, Real Men Don't Text

"Often if I call, I get a text back saying, 'What's up?' I find that people not only prefer texting but have no problem making it blatantly clear that they only want to handle the conversation by text."-Drew Johnson, 30

A survey conducted by ChristianMingle.com and JDate.com found that 38% of those in the 21 to 26 age bracket use text messages to plan their dates. That figure drops down to 43% for those in the 43-50 age bracket. A quarter of those age 21-26 use their mobile device to try to find out information about someone they are going to go out with. That drops down to 14% for those in the 43-50 age bracket. That could be due to age making someone more comfortable about going out on a date, or it could be that in that age group, mobile phone users don't have the same know-how as younger people do to find information about someone on a mobile device.

Using a mobile device to plan a date

source: USAToday

Options

9 Comments

1. tigermcm

Posts: 861; Member since: Sep 02, 2009

personally if you want to argue text me......been in 2 relationships where my lady at the time would not remember the stupid things that were said just 5 seconds ago. I rather you read what you said since its creepy to record you

posted on Jul 18, 2013, 11:13 PM 1

2. iSlackerz

Posts: 8; Member since: Feb 10, 2012

What they are saying is that people are cowards. Got it.

posted on Jul 18, 2013, 11:57 PM 2

3. quakan

Posts: 1418; Member since: Mar 02, 2011

This survey was limited to daters, but I think it's safe to say that it also applies outside that realm as well. I don't think it defines someone as a coward to prefer to text, it's just preference.

posted on Jul 19, 2013, 12:23 AM 2

4. tiara6918

Posts: 2263; Member since: Apr 26, 2012

Yep,it's about preference. Tbh, I sometimes find it easier to get close to someone via text not by meeting them personally

posted on Jul 19, 2013, 1:34 AM 0

8. iSlackerz

My statement only applied to dating, since that is the subject of the article. In general life, I think you're right. Prefereing to text rather than speak on the phone is a preference. When it comes to dating I disagree entirely, a man should ask a woman out in person if at all possible.

posted on Jul 27, 2013, 1:09 PM 0

6. TheLolGuy

Posts: 483; Member since: Mar 05, 2013

You're right we are cowards. It's easier to make a riskier decision if the person is physically far or detached from your presence. You feel psychologically safer in a certain way. I mean come on... women said they like texting because "talking takes too long?" Yeah, because you tend to be more braver and be sexier and make more innuendos when you don't have to confront them face to face... Ah, now that I actually read the rest of the article my comment is redundant.

posted on Jul 19, 2013, 9:12 AM 0

9. iSlackerz

Exactly.

posted on Jul 27, 2013, 1:10 PM 0

5. VLaRueC

Posts: 189; Member since: Dec 18, 2012

I don't see anything wrong with an article like this. Thank to PA. My two cents - texting is good for keeping track of times and dates! Good for dating...